Wednesday 16 October 2013

To BE or not to BE, that is the question.

As we all know, there are Six Fundamental Rights in India:-

  1. Right to Equality
  2. Right to Freedom
  3. Right against exploitation
  4. Right to freedom of religion
  5. Cultural and Educational rights
  6. Right to Constitutional Remedies for enforcement of Fundamental Rights
So much for the Social Studies lesson, the case in point here is the Right to Freedom. For me, there should be a sub-branch to this Right , " Right to BE"..

Like everything else, which is there in books and only in books, I guess the entire idea of these rights also remains printed but not followed.

In college days , how many times I would have avoided catching the eye of few Aunties while passing by, lest they ask me a question on where I was coming from or where I was going to. How it was any of their business, I fail to understand to this day. Then there were those, who felt they had all the liberty to comment on what I wore and whom I hung out with. Some even had the audacity of telling my mom of how she should keep an eye on me all the time and not let me have any guy friends!!

Then came the time, when I began my career and moved to a different city, and here I thought I would be a little relieved. But alas, the land lady had zillion questions on which friends are visiting me and what time I was coming home. And again the regular comment on what I should wear and what not ( Shouldn't it be a personal choice!!!!!!! ) . Aunty, I never asked you, why you chose to wear the same Saree day-in and day-out!

And oh-not-to-forget the relatives and neighbors continuously checking when I decided to settle down in life, how many marks I scored in my academics, which stream I took in 11th standard, what career choices whould I make, when one should ideally have children and how many ( yes, people want to decide that too for you..) . So for those who don't want to puzzle their brains much over this, leave the job to those who are willing to plan your entire life for you.

Why can't we understand, and let others be!!
I only have this to say, to all those nosy intruders,

"Before you judge my life, my past or my character, walk in my shoes, walk the path I have traveled, live my sorrows, my doubts, my fear, my pain & my laughter... Remember everyone has a story, when u have lived my life then u can judge me...."

Live and let live. You have no business telling anyone, how they should live their life, unless someone asks for your advice and opinion!!

Not sure, if this is the right approach in life, but I'd rather live it on my own terms.

I'll walk my own path and take my own risks. And if I fail, what the heck, that's how I'll learn!

Till our paths cross again!



  1. Well said Deeksha! Unfortunately, not many people understand this and follow this. And for those who follow, there are zillions waiting to pull them down through all possible means.

  2. Completely agree. In fact, the one's who follow are termed as selfish, arrogant and rude. But that's the world we live in sadly.